copados1993 Posted October 28, 2005 Share Posted October 28, 2005 does anyone else hate going to their inlaws for the holidays? I love everything about the holidays except knowing that at some point having to go there. They don't enjoy kids and their home feels like a musuem. Anyone have any ideas how to make a trip to the Grandparents house fun for the kids? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gloey Posted October 28, 2005 Share Posted October 28, 2005 does anyone else hate going to their inlaws for the holidays? I love everything about the holidays except knowing that at some point having to go there. They don't enjoy kids and their home feels like a musuem. Anyone have any ideas how to make a trip to the Grandparents house fun for the kids?That's sad...I guess I'm the extreme opposite, I love having my granddaughter over. She's coming over tonite and I walked around Meijer for an hour trying to find a toy or craft we could do. Make sure you take toys for them to play with. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gporter34 Posted October 28, 2005 Share Posted October 28, 2005 I hate going to someone's house who doesn't have kids and they spend the whole time acting like they are okay, but you notice them looking nervous. I would rather stay at home than go somewhere and feel uncomfortable the whole time because people are "waiting" on your kids to either say or do something they shouldn't. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
copados1993 Posted October 28, 2005 Author Share Posted October 28, 2005 I swear my inlaws watch everything they do! I bet they count down every minute until we're gone. Holidays are suppose to be fun.....guess that means I need to go somewhere else!!!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JanaBanana Posted October 28, 2005 Share Posted October 28, 2005 For years we went to my inlaws and LOVED it, but now that we have 4 kids and a much bigger house they come here. Why dont you invite them to your home instead? :) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Christypl Posted October 28, 2005 Share Posted October 28, 2005 My mom has the most kid friendly house......I am so thankful for that! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
happysunshine28 Posted October 29, 2005 Share Posted October 29, 2005 For years we went to my inlaws and LOVED it, but now that we have 4 kids and a much bigger house they come here. Why dont you invite them to your home instead? :)That is a wonderful idea. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Steakgoddess Posted October 29, 2005 Share Posted October 29, 2005 I hate going to the inlaws. They dont have a tree Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PaulaJC Posted October 29, 2005 Share Posted October 29, 2005 I don't enjoy going to my in-laws either. They are the most stingy people I know. If they didnt give gifts to my hubby or me that would be fine but my kids are their only granddaughters and they get one gift per child. Sadly they play favorites but my parents make up for it! We love spending the holidays with them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
best4less Posted October 29, 2005 Share Posted October 29, 2005 Honestly, I don't like going to my inlaws anytime during the year, ever mind for the holidays lol. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ohio_gal1959 Posted October 29, 2005 Share Posted October 29, 2005 I think Christmas is for the kids, and on Christmas morning, the kids like to play with their new things. I had this problem years ago, so I have the inlaws come to my house on Christmas, if they dont have kids. Its much easier for them..and its for the Kids anyways...not a control thing. My son missed out on a Couple of Christmas's of being home, from running around all Christmas Day to Divorced Parents. I had to put my foot down..and let them Know the Next Years..they can come and visit on Christmas Day, so the kids can have their Christmas. Yes they tried to push the issue..but I stuck to my guns. At least my son had Christmas at home for a few years. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tracy72 Posted October 29, 2005 Share Posted October 29, 2005 nope...love going to my inlaws...we have a big Christmas there. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mjmcca Posted October 29, 2005 Share Posted October 29, 2005 In laws are 6000 miles away. We go to my aunt's house for Christmas dinner. She has tons of grands and acts like Sammy and Layla are hers too so i am never uncomfortable there. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alimfp Posted October 29, 2005 Share Posted October 29, 2005 Wow, that is sad. Both my in-laws and my parents LOVE the kids. And while they both don't have babyproofed homes as much as we'd like.. we just stay on our toes (all of us) with the kiddos. The holidays have become that much more fun since we had our kids. No ideas for you.. I hope one day your in-laws realize how enjoyable kids are, especially when you are the Grandparent (and can give them back to the parent, lol!). Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jenniferharrison82 Posted October 29, 2005 Share Posted October 29, 2005 I hate it rather stay home, they would be to flaky to show up if I invited them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gator Pam Posted October 29, 2005 Share Posted October 29, 2005 We go to FIL's for both T-Day and Chr-stmas. My folks are gone, and my FIL is much more himself when we're around than when we aren't. We live about 7 hours away from each other most of the year, and when we're not around FIL drinks. :::sigh::: When we're with him, he's cold stone sober and alive, if you know what I mean. Beorn adores him, and I think he's pretty OK myself. I am hopeful when Paul is finally finsihed with school and we get our own place that we can build an apartment on to our home for FIL. That's my dream regarding him, anyway... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mjmcca Posted October 29, 2005 Share Posted October 29, 2005 We go to FIL's for both T-Day and Chr-stmas. My folks are gone, and my FIL is much more himself when we're around than when we aren't. We live about 7 hours away from each other most of the year, and when we're not around FIL drinks. :::sigh::: When we're with him, he's cold stone sober and alive, if you know what I mean. Beorn adores him, and I think he's pretty OK myself. I am hopeful when Paul is finally finsihed with school and we get our own place that we can build an apartment on to our home for FIL. That's my dream regarding him, anyway...That is so sweet Pam. It sounds like your FIL is lonely when you guys arent around. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
erh12275 Posted October 29, 2005 Share Posted October 29, 2005 does anyone else hate going to their inlaws for the holidays? I love everything about the holidays except knowing that at some point having to go there. They don't enjoy kids and their home feels like a musuem. Anyone have any ideas how to make a trip to the Grandparents house fun for the kids?I don't know yet. This will be our first year going to his family's house(s). But when I was married to my ex...I LOVED it. We always went to his grandmothers for either Christmas eve(or a few days before) and then his mom's on Christmas and New Year's. It was always a lot of fun. Loved his family...just not him...kinda a shame. I think as long as hubby's family has it as his grandparents house it will be ok. Guess we'll just have to wait and see. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gporter34 Posted October 29, 2005 Share Posted October 29, 2005 We will stop in and visit MIL but we always have holidays at our house. It is so much better because I want the kids to feel comfortable and be free to have a good time on Christmas. Besides, I don't like dragging alot of stuff in and out. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elena_398 Posted October 30, 2005 Share Posted October 30, 2005 I go to my parents. My husband and Dad are so close I sometimes think he wants to see him instead of me! LOL. Im lucky because I love my father-n-law but he lives out of state. My mother-in-law is something to be desired, but shes leaving for Florida before christmas :) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
biomajor Posted October 30, 2005 Share Posted October 30, 2005 I used to hate going to my MIL's for any holiday because both her and my FIL lived about 6 miles apart and when we'd go to his house, she'd act like we were betraying her. She also can't remember my kids' birthdays and is a PITA most of the time. Now, we live 15 hours or so away. My FIL moved about 6 hours from us, so we go to see him a bit more often. I like going to see him. He is such a sweetheart!! I still haven't gone back to OK and I don't want to!! I liked his second wife--she was my favorite MIL, but now they are divorced. She till sends cards on time for the kids' birthdays!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
copados1993 Posted October 30, 2005 Author Share Posted October 30, 2005 nice to know that I'm not the only one with inlaw horror stories! I sure wish mine were more like my parents.......nice! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
disneytati Posted October 31, 2005 Share Posted October 31, 2005 Well, I also have a mother-in-law nightmare before xmas story, so I guess in-law problems are the same all over the world... Last year I agreed to spend Christmas Eve at my mother-in-law's. Here, it's the main celebrations day, Dec 25th already has that after Christmas feeling... Anyway, it was 6PM, we were ready to leave home (with our baby and everything), she calls us and says: "can we postpone it? I am not feeling very well..." We hadn't prepared anything for ourselves, as we were going to have Christmas dinner there. I got sooo pissed!!!! How can someone "postpone" Christmas!?!?!?!! I rushed to the bakery, they sell Xmas dinner items to go, like a buffet. You pay by kilogram of food. Of course, at 6PM there were only leftovers... That's what we had for xmas dinner last year. Thank God we had a great lunch with my dad, and a big xmas dinner with my mom on Dec 25th. I'll never agree with such an idea again in my whole life!!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kygal2003 Posted October 31, 2005 Share Posted October 31, 2005 We go to the in-laws on Christmas Eve and have a small dinner with ALL of my husbands family. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sherril Posted November 1, 2005 Share Posted November 1, 2005 How do I begin! This is the post for me! We always do Christmas Eve with my DH side of the family it is always done at his grandmothers home and she is a chain smoker. I offered to do it at my home this year and was shot down immediately. Well i found out that my dh cousin is going to have it at her house (my home is larger) Ihave just kept my mouth shut. My main problem is that my mil favors my dh's cousins children over ours. and our daughter is her only grand child! I think most of his family lacks tact (you wouldnt believe the topics of convo!) I always leave very upset and frustrated! I have hated Christmas Eve for the last 7 years! Sorry for venting! I am glad that there are people who can relate. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fairydustcrissy Posted November 2, 2005 Share Posted November 2, 2005 I always hated going to inlaws. Now one lives in Florida, and one freaked out and we dont speak. Gee, Christmas is going to be great this year! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
trish6103 Posted November 2, 2005 Share Posted November 2, 2005 Since I have not spoken to my DH's mother (I refuse to call her my MIL) this is a non-issue for me. I have no time in my life for toxic people. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gumball Posted November 2, 2005 Share Posted November 2, 2005 I don't have any inlaws or family to go to. It's just me & my daughter. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
copados1993 Posted November 7, 2005 Author Share Posted November 7, 2005 How do I begin! This is the post for me! We always do Christmas Eve with my DH side of the family it is always done at his grandmothers home and she is a chain smoker. I offered to do it at my home this year and was shot down immediately. Well i found out that my dh cousin is going to have it at her house (my home is larger) Ihave just kept my mouth shut. My main problem is that my mil favors my dh's cousins children over ours. and our daughter is her only grand child! I think most of his family lacks tact (you wouldnt believe the topics of convo!) I always leave very upset and frustrated! I have hated Christmas Eve for the last 7 years! Sorry for venting! I am glad that there are people who can relate.Boy I can sure feel for you!!! I come from a normal, not perfect family where everyone loves each other. I go to my inlaws house and I can just cut the tention with a knife! Thank goodness I don't live close!!!!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tishaclayton Posted November 7, 2005 Share Posted November 7, 2005 I hate, hate, hate, hate, hate..did I say hate..let me put loath my DH's mom.. She is a piece of work..DH doesn't care for her either so no..I am not going to my in laws for Christmas...lol... Besides our excuse is he has to work Christmas Eve till 8 pm so we won't have time..and Christmas morning is going to be too busy with my family.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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