musiang Posted October 31, 2005 Posted October 31, 2005 I need a little help and since this is the Holiday forum, perfect spot for it. How do you decide between your family's and the in-laws? My mother and I have spent every Christmas together and since my daddy passed away a few years ago, it is really hard on her near the Holidays. Hubby wants to goto his family. His parents are divorced, so that means 3 seperate Christmas'. Our son is going to be 3 and understand Christmas and opening presents, and all. I don't want to take that away from my mother, but he is insisting this year. (We have been together 6 years, and we have always done his family on Christmas Eve, and Thanksgiving.) Any advice would be greatful!!
erh12275 Posted October 31, 2005 Posted October 31, 2005 I haven't had this problem w/ my current husband. When my family was alive we lived near them...and now that they are gone we live near dh's. But when I was married to my ex we did the three Christmas thing. It was weird trying to just eat a lil at everyones house...but it was only fair to the families to get to see their grandkids on Christmas. If your families are too far apart and you have to make a decision...I would say try talking to your mom and see if you can see her on Christmas eve. Imagine how you and your mom would feel if roles were reversed and you had spent Christmas w/ his family every year.
ryka Posted October 31, 2005 Posted October 31, 2005 My daughter spends Christmas eve with her father and his family. He brings her home on Christmas eve and on Christmas Day we spend it with my family.
happysunshine28 Posted October 31, 2005 Posted October 31, 2005 Is there any way they all can come to your house at the same time.
orangedaisy Posted October 31, 2005 Posted October 31, 2005 Can she go with you? I would think that would be better than being alone.
turtle_elf Posted October 31, 2005 Posted October 31, 2005 Do you really have to choose? You could always invite everyone to your place, or explain to everyone that you are torn, and if they don't want to do it at your place, or if you can't, then see if she can be with you wherever you are. :)
dorkydiva Posted October 31, 2005 Posted October 31, 2005 We used to alternate. One year Christmas Eve at my parents' and Christmas Day with the in-laws, then vice versa.
alimfp Posted November 2, 2005 Posted November 2, 2005 We alternate - Whoever we go see on Thanksgiving, we go see the opposite people on Christmas Day and we switch off every year.
starshine Posted November 2, 2005 Posted November 2, 2005 I think it would be a good idea to see if either you mom could go with you to the in laws or everyone could come to your place. I would not want to leave my mom alone on Christmas if she where all alone.
all4linkae Posted November 5, 2005 Posted November 5, 2005 I wouldn't leave my mom alone either! Try to take her with you or like everyone else said, she if you can do it at your house. Or see if someone on your husbands side can do it on Christmas Eve!
plockh Posted November 8, 2005 Posted November 8, 2005 I think it would be a good idea to see if either you mom could go with you to the in laws or everyone could come to your place. I would not want to leave my mom alone on Christmas if she where all alone.I so agree...our SIL's mom is single, so she has been invited for the past 13 years to either our home or the kids for Christmas week...it is awesome!
Jenniferharrison82 Posted November 14, 2005 Posted November 14, 2005 We have always done christmas eve with the inlaw, christmas day with my family. Has worked out perfect.
treasure60 Posted November 14, 2005 Posted November 14, 2005 My parents and my hubby's parents come to our house every year to open presents with us. And it works out great nobody's feelings are hurt that way...my husband is an only child. My parents stay here all day and my siblings come here for the evening time. We do have a family Christmas party but my parents and us only open presents from my siblings and their families. Why don't you have your mother go with you to your both of your divorced in-laws for Christmas?
PhotoNutAmber Posted November 14, 2005 Posted November 14, 2005 We have to choose because of the distance between our families and ourselves for that matter. We are currently in Los Angeles and my family is in Illinois and his is in Oklahoma/Texas area so every other year we switch off between Christmas and Thanksgiving. This year we will spend Christmas in Illinois and next year we will spend it in Oklahoma/Texas. We normally would spend Thanksgiving in Oklahoma/Texas but don't have the money to do both this year. Christmas won out :). Amber
Guest all2tired Posted November 14, 2005 Posted November 14, 2005 We used to alternate too, Thanksgiving at one and Christmas at the other but Christmas eve was always at my parent's house. I think whoever it was above that suggested you have everybody come to your house. It would be the perfect solution unless your in laws don't get along
ajburlingame Posted November 14, 2005 Posted November 14, 2005 My parents and siblings have always gotten together on Christmas Eve since we have been grown. My husbands family gets together in the afternoon on Christmas. I am blessed to not have to make a choice.
cami_reardon Posted November 15, 2005 Posted November 15, 2005 I suppose I'm very lucky in this. My family has always celebrated on Christmas Eve and hubbys family has always celebrated on Christmas Day. We never had to make a decision of where to go. :woot2:
shopping mom Posted November 15, 2005 Posted November 15, 2005 We usually do Christmas Eve with the in-laws and Christmas Day with my parents. Usually they end up at each others house too just to watch the kids faces. (if my folks are in the states) Can your mom spend the weekend with you and just go every where you do?
gisellerol Posted November 15, 2005 Posted November 15, 2005 i prefer to stay home and let everyone visit me much easier than travelig with 3 kids and all those presents
bayhaysay Posted November 15, 2005 Posted November 15, 2005 Why don't you have your mother go with you to your both of your divorced in-laws for Christmas?ding, ding, ding, WINNER!
tootsieroll23 Posted November 16, 2005 Posted November 16, 2005 I have a wonderful in-laws. My DH is one of six children and his parents always celebrate Thanksgiving and Christmas in the evening. That way all of their children and spouses get to spend Thanksgiving and Christmas with the spouse's family first.
WELUVKDS79 Posted November 16, 2005 Posted November 16, 2005 I think it would be reasonable to alternate years..I mean that way you are considerate of his feelings to. Perhaps if your Mom needs to be with you so bad..see if she can come with??
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