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#1 Scanner420  OFFLINE  

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Posted Nov 3, 2008 - 10:28 pm

Coming down with a case of them now. Dunno why? How do you deal with them? :beer:

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Posted Nov 4, 2008 - 12:16 am

Are you missing someone? I will just lock myself in my bedroom ans watching movies. But it will make things worse.

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Posted Nov 4, 2008 - 2:44 am

Hey sorry to hear that about the holiday blues. I love holidays but sometimes the stress makes me crazy..... and I feel down then.... so what I do is make a list of everything I need to do for the upcoming holiday and make a budget if it's a gift giving or big food holiday where I need extra supplies.... and I keep an up to date calendar of what is going to happen when. I allow plenty of time for each thing and mark through it as it's complete and keep the list going so I can see how much I have accomplished and what little is left to do .... That might help if it's stress of oh my gosh look how much has to happen in a short time.... Another thing is when we changed clocks this week everyone at my house is pretty blah from the it doesn't feel like this time.... and I am sure that will pass in a few days when they get used to it.... When all else fails come here and vent :)

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Posted Nov 4, 2008 - 5:26 am

Although I love the holidays I get very very depressed during this time as well. Mostly bc I am estranged from my mother (for the most part, she comes around when she feels like it) and therefore the rest of my family (grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, all the people I grew up spending the holidays with) think I am a terrible person. I really only have DH's family at the holidays and, well, it is just not the same. They are not warm and fuzzy people but are pretty materialistic, come to my house for Christmas dinner (never even know who to expect) eat and leave. So anyway, I know how you feel. At one point my holiday blues had gotten so bad that my Dh told me that my kids would forever view Christmas as a sad time bc I was always crying so much. I try a lot harder to hide it from them now but when I see that my little son, who is 3, has no real notion of what a family Christmas is about I get very upset. So, I guess I have no real advice to give just sympathy. ((((hugs))))
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Posted Nov 4, 2008 - 5:31 am

I hope you start cheering up soon. I was get sad around thankgiving and christmas too because of my Dad's death. He died Dec 12 going on 3 years now. But over the past years, I have learned to try and keep my Mom happy and in doing that, it maked me happy. I am also very focused this year on getting everything my kids on for Christmas without breaking bank. I have a plain in place and so far so good. This year is going to be somewhat smaller than pervoius years. So I am making more fun things to do, like baking, taking the kdis shopping so they can buy something for eachother and special clothes. Just doing the little things makes everything brighter for me. When I look back over my childhood christmas, I don't think about what "santa" brought for me. I think about helping my mom make cakes and candy, helping wrap presents, buying the perfect christmas dress, seeing my parents reaction on what my Gram let me buy for them. Try doing the little things and take everything one day at a time. I really hope you get to feeling happy soon! Happy Holidays!!!!!!!!

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Posted Nov 6, 2008 - 10:02 pm

This has been happeneing to me for as long as I can remember. (even as a kid, I can remember things being this way.) Every year around this time, it comes on like a wave and I can't do anything, but brace myself for the impact. It lasts only a few weeks and is usually gone by the first week of december. (longest stretch lasted until Dec 12th one year.) I really don't know why I get them. I just do. I mean, I have a great life, 4 amazing kids and a wonderful wife. Yea..I work at a job I absolutely hate nowadays, but I tough it out, because, it keeps a roof over our heads, food on the table, gas in our cars and the doctor available 24/7. My family is stable, just looney @ times and we're coming up on a trip to Disney, just over three weeks away. I tried talking with someone a while back about this and he wanted me on meds for it, even though I told him that it wasn't something that lasted a long time, just something that comes back once a year. (haven't spoken about it to anyone til now.) Right now, I just put on the happy face and smile alot. No sense in ruining everyone elses fun. I tend to stay away from the beer when this happens. (yea...me. Go figure!) I just need to know...why is it, that I'm singled out with this crap every year. I mean, is it the stress about the fact that I have to re-mortgage my house to get everything on my kids wish list? Is it the fact that I want my gifts for my wife to be perfect? Is it the fact that during the "tiding of Peace on Earth and Good-Will towards men." I have to work in a ghetto where scum just tear into eachother with complete disregard for any human decency for themselves and others? I dunno. Guess I'll just ride it out again. :beer:

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Posted Nov 7, 2008 - 2:56 am

This has been happeneing to me for as long as I can remember. (even as a kid, I can remember things being this way.) Every year around this time, it comes on like a wave and I can't do anything, but brace myself for the impact. It lasts only a few weeks and is usually gone by the first week of december. (longest stretch lasted until Dec 12th one year.)

I really don't know why I get them. I just do. I mean, I have a great life, 4 amazing kids and a wonderful wife. Yea..I work at a job I absolutely hate nowadays, but I tough it out, because, it keeps a roof over our heads, food on the table, gas in our cars and the doctor available 24/7. My family is stable, just looney @ times and we're coming up on a trip to Disney, just over three weeks away.

I tried talking with someone a while back about this and he wanted me on meds for it, even though I told him that it wasn't something that lasted a long time, just something that comes back once a year. (haven't spoken about it to anyone til now.)

Right now, I just put on the happy face and smile alot. No sense in ruining everyone elses fun. I tend to stay away from the beer when this happens. (yea...me. Go figure!) I just need to know...why is it, that I'm singled out with this crap every year. I mean, is it the stress about the fact that I have to re-mortgage my house to get everything on my kids wish list? Is it the fact that I want my gifts for my wife to be perfect? Is it the fact that during the "tiding of Peace on Earth and Good-Will towards men." I have to work in a ghetto where scum just tear into eachother with complete disregard for any human decency for themselves and others? I dunno. Guess I'll just ride it out again.

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It sounds like it could be a mild case of seasonal affected disorder- some people get depressed but only during the winter months. Maybe your body clock has to get reset and it takes a little time out. The stress you are feeling could be part of it too. I've been overly stressed the last couple of weeks and can't pinpoint 1 thing. I don't know the age of your kids but I let mine know (they are teens) that this year will be tighter (they know we've had some medical bills and papa has lots of prescription copays now) and that helped some that they aren't expecting huge piles of presents under the tree. I'm still real down but like you I know that it will pass--and if not I will talk to my pcp again. (I'm on meds but they might need tweeking).
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Posted Nov 7, 2008 - 9:22 pm

The thing is...this lasts only a few weeks, but it just happens the same time every year. M'eh. Thanks anyway guys and gals. I'll just ride it out. :beer:

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Posted Nov 8, 2008 - 3:24 am

Ever think it has to do with Daylight savings change and more darkness during the wake hours? Its a seasonal depression maybe?

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Posted Nov 8, 2008 - 12:29 pm

I get this also. Mine is a combo. of s.a.d. my in laws and Christmas begining at hallloween every year. My in laws have no money problems, in fact my sil just bragged to me a few hours ago that her dh had given her 2 grand for Christmas. They just turn Christmas into a giant materialistc mess every year. I hate that my kids are experiancing Christmas in this way. at least we go to my parents house also and that sort of keeps them grounded. Seeing what society has turned Christmas intlo really depresses me. and having no escape from it because my in laws are completely into it makes it worse. I have one major breakdown a year, then I try to suck it up and move on. but I never feel "good" sorry this wasn't much help.

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Posted Nov 9, 2008 - 6:48 am

NP. :beer: Maybe this should be a thread for people who get Christmas Blues and wanna post about it. LOL. It's sucks that people get depressed, but it's somewhat comforting to know that I'm not the only nut who feels completely crappy during one of the best times of the year. :beer:

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Posted Nov 9, 2008 - 7:15 am

I don't always get the holiday blues but year won't be the best on record. DH and I might be heading for a divorce. YEAH CHRISTMAS! I don't know if things have really gotten to the point of truly getting divorced or not, but we'll just leave it as they are not good.
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Posted Nov 9, 2008 - 1:33 pm

Sorry to hear that princess. :beer:

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Posted Dec 10, 2008 - 8:12 pm

I think I am getting a bad case of them this year. I think I am more into the traditions and having my kids with me than I realized. With the expansion of new DILS, fiances and boyfriends, I feel like the least important person around. Christmas breakfast has been a tradition since I was born, but I am not sure any of my kids even care to come to it. My DH stopped doing Christmas a few years ago and that still hurts, but tonight my DD20 decided that she is going to her boyriends house for Christmas morning. What bothers me is I asked all them weeks ago to make decisions about how the day was going to work. All said we are coming to breakfast but we will need to leave betweenone and two to go to.... house. Great we will all be together for a few hours. Now I dont have that. I think next year I am cutting way back on the grown kids (nothing seems appreciated) and just do for DD5 I may go see my inlaws in Nevada or if my folks go back to Bolivia I may go there instead. Then the older ones can have Christmas without coming to see mom to worry about. UGH I know I am whining but its late I am tired and upset!!

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Posted Dec 10, 2008 - 8:16 pm

Coming down with a case of them now.

Dunno why?

How do you deal with them?

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Are you missing someone? I will just lock myself in my bedroom ans watching movies. But it will make things worse.


I think you're missing Disney! LMAO I feel the same way! It will pass as soon as you book your next vacation,lmao!
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Posted Dec 11, 2008 - 1:13 am

Nah! Believe me...I have plenty of Disney left in me to last a year.....if not I'm sure they'll be a souverier or two to trip over in the meantime to jog out a few memories. :beer:

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Posted Dec 11, 2008 - 3:45 am

I think i'm going thru a slight holiday blues. I'm just not "in it" this year. Not sure whats going on. I guess all the stresses and pressures I was under this past fall didnt help, and I dont really feel like they've gone away. Doesnt help that DH isnt a christmasy person either.

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Posted Dec 11, 2008 - 4:31 am

Ironic that I came across this thread. I was just thinking that we are experiencing Holiday Blues. This is our first year without our family. Jeremy's family has been going through some stuff and he is struggling with being far away. I sat and balled my eyes out just a little bit ago but I needed that. It was all kinda of sitting inside of me. I have tried very hard not to cry in front of the kids or show any sort of weakness. It just came to blows today. Anyways, I don't mean to pour my heart out but it's nice to get it off my chest.
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Posted Dec 11, 2008 - 6:02 am

i have them this year i havent started christmas shopping i have a few thingss then i got this rotator cuff thing going on cant drive cable got shut off i do have dvd to watch cant cook too much cause i'll probably be recovering from surgery waaa thanks for letting me vent

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Posted Dec 12, 2008 - 6:51 am

The thing is...this lasts only a few weeks, but it just happens the same time every year.

M'eh.

Thanks anyway guys and gals. I'll just ride it out.

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I understand about the holiday blues...I get them too. This is the way I fight them. It may seem a little weird, but it'll help, I promise. When nobody else is around, crank up the stereo with your most favorite, upbeat music (avoid slow moody ballads like the plague). You want something fast and swingy. Now, DANCE like crazy...you will feel pretty strange at first, but after a few minutes you'll get endorphins going and you'll be surprised how much your mood will lift. Dance a couple of songs everyday...only takes about ten minutes and it's better than antidepressants. Give it a try.
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