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#1 ilikefree  OFFLINE  

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Posted Nov 24, 2014 - 11:40 am

I normally love Christmas, it's my favorite time of year. But we lost my mom back in April and I'm just not excited about Christmas this year. When we were kids, my mom stayed home with us and Dad was the one who worked and brought in the money. We didn't have much throughout the year, but Mom always made Christmas something special for us kids, we usually got everything we asked for and then some. My husband and 2 sons don't care if the house is decorated or not, but my husband and younger son will help me if I ask them. I just don't feel it is worth the effort this year.



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Posted Nov 24, 2014 - 11:44 am

Yes, I'm right there with you.  Even tried to start going to our Festival of Trees this past weekend to get inspired and that didn't help either.

 

I'm not sure if there is any solid reason that I'm not into it this year as I also usually love to decorate, shop, etc. and can't wait to get my stuff out, but this year it just feels like too much hassle and more work than its worth.

 

My daughter is 21 years old, my relationship with my boyfriend is on the rocks and the only other family I have is my mother that I see regularly anyway so the holidays are really not special anymore.   I'm already ready for it to be over and get back into summer. LOL



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Posted Nov 24, 2014 - 1:12 pm

I think there comes a time we all get this way. i know its nt as exciting for me anymore as my kids are grown so the excitment of santa isnt here, we dont go visit santa anymore, there to old to wanna make cookies and such things.Son wants nothing to do with the decorating.Things just arent the same anymore so i understand how yall feel,My daughter did help with the decorations and stuff guess i just miss the old times.


Ohhh another day another deal!!!

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Posted Nov 24, 2014 - 1:20 pm

No kids, live by myself (with my 2 kitties), only dad is even semi-local to me anymore. If not for the SS Exchange in here, I wouldn't have done any shopping yet. I know once I start my baking marathon (haha) next week, I should get more in the spirit, but yeah. Not really feeling it this year. I fear even the baking may be more of a chore and I don't like when it feels that way. It's a labor of love for me, so I prefer to enjoy it instead of just grind through it (as I do on occasion). Might just need to get out my favorite Christmas music CD and try to kick myself into gear. :holiday10


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Posted Nov 24, 2014 - 6:22 pm

I have to admit I'm not feeling it this year either but with no logical explanation, I just don't. A suggestion might be to do something for someone else so that they have a happy holiday. I did this the other day when I got three tags off of an Angel Tree and it made me feel good.

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Posted Nov 24, 2014 - 9:19 pm

I haven't been feeling it for the past 21 years when I lost my dad 3 weeks before Christmas. It's a chore but I muddle through. Next year both my girls will be out of the house and I will be spending it alone. Oh so hating the holidays right now. I'm already stressed about decorating and baking!

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Posted Nov 24, 2014 - 9:37 pm

Sadly here too.  Our family is just going through so much right now and as much as I try to be in the spirit, I feel like I'm failing.  Of course that adds even more stress. 



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Posted Nov 24, 2014 - 10:50 pm

Yeah, I know what you mean. My brother lives so far away, and talking to him online just isn't the same. My sister and her girls live all the way on the other side of the country. So it's just me and my parents local. Then add in the fact that my dad had a stroke at the end of last month. So I spent my birthday (which in our family is the kick off to the holiday season) sitting in a hospital room. :( yeah, hopefully Black Friday shopping will get me in the mood.

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Posted Nov 25, 2014 - 2:49 am

im definitely not feeling it. I work retail for a living so the craziness always makes me not feel it some, but my grandma passed back in may and thanksgiving along with christmas eve have ALWAYS been a holiday that takes place at her house and every other holiday for that matter. So without her its just not the same and weve had way to much family drama since her passing thats its kinda just any other day this holiday season.



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Posted Nov 25, 2014 - 6:24 am

Another sign I'm not feeling it (or I'm incredibly stupid, take your pick) - last night I told my boss I'd be willing to make myself available to work on Friday. Though to be fair I did have to deal with smoke from a mulch fire yesterday and the sinuses are out of control...

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Posted Nov 25, 2014 - 6:30 am

I'm not feeling it either. I think it's because the kids are all grown up, I have no family left and my In-laws are always a hot mess at holidays (It's not Christmas until somebody cries!) which makes me hate visiting. I was thrilled when MIL cancelled Thanksgiving.
I made DH promise that next year, we would take a family trip somewhere and keep gifts to a minimum.

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Posted Nov 26, 2014 - 6:41 pm

I'm way behind on preparations for BF and holidays in general. I'm just overdue for a new job. Today the head honcho basically tells me I'm so good at my job i get to train my replacement...WTF! They work me to the bone, make me anxious over job duties and still pretend I'm not doing enough. They double booked me so now i have to attend a training 3-5 on BF after having gotten day off and work from home over weekend because there's not enough hours in the day to do at work. What REALLY gets me is I've been telling them for weeks how behind i am but they wouldn't allow OT or work from home. Now they need info so it's all good.... and STILL have the gall to tell me it's going to benefit ME and to see the bright side. If i wasn't so financially responsible i would have resigned ON THE SPOT and let them figure out how to train the new guy.

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Posted Nov 30, 2014 - 5:47 pm

I'm trying to feel it,but we buried my beloved husband of 24 1/2 years yesterday. He'd been battling breast cancer for 3 1/2 years and he finally succumbed on Mon. Nov. 24. Last Christmas was the one to live in our memories.

Ordinarily,we would have put up our tree today but I just couldn't.

My brother is staying with us so he will help us do it tomorrow.

 

It will be different (to say the least) this year at Christmas time.I can't even say how our Christmas will be this year.I will be trying to make it a good one for the kids but my heart sure isn't in it as of right now.


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Posted Nov 30, 2014 - 7:08 pm

Your not alone in how you feel. You just go through the motions, but your hearts not in it. Know that many feel this way, some are just better at hiding it. When I was younger I couldn't understand when I would occasionally hear it said that Christmas was not a joyous time for some. I understand all to well now. Prayers to you....and all of us.

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Posted Nov 30, 2014 - 7:17 pm

Hugs, prayers and thoughts to you and your entire family.

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Posted Dec 1, 2014 - 3:32 am

HansieDZ, I'm so sorry for your loss. How devastating! I can't even begin to imagine! Prayers to you and your family.


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Posted Dec 1, 2014 - 5:21 am

I was feeling it and excited for Christmas.I love christmas but this year I am broke didn't get to do the shopping I wanted to make this the best Christmas ever for my dd8.so now I'm kinda grumpy and not feeling it.Hope things turn around for me soon

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Posted Dec 1, 2014 - 6:42 am

We got a lot more into the holiday spirit once we started shopping online Wednesday night, then had the big family dinner and then off shopping on Friday and Saturday. Sunday we put up a tree (fake since we are staying with friends until our house is done) We got some of those fir sticks that make it smell more real. It set off the mood big time, we got one of the trees that plays a music and light show and watching our daughter dance while decorating was the best.



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Posted Dec 1, 2014 - 10:42 am

Agree just not into it :(  My DH's work does a Giving tree and I always enjoy getting stuff together for the families. DH brought home the tags, I went and bought the items but still not in to it.  My DD's and I are bell ringing for the Salvation Army this weekend so I hope this does it. I have a cookie exchange this weekend too sad thing is I am hosting it



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Posted Dec 1, 2014 - 11:03 am

I'm so sorry, HansieDZ... :( My heart goes out to you and your whole family. Cancer sucks.


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Posted Dec 6, 2014 - 9:49 am

I think that, for everyone, over time the holidays change.  Families change, children grow and this affects how we view and feel about the season.  Hubby and I (no kids) have kind of been on a holiday bummer the past few years.  Our families - especially mine - have morphed into something a far cry than the simple "mom and dad" we had as kids.  We also choose not to decorate because we have several cats...and well it just wasn't worth the few weeks of fussing with them and vet bills LOL. 

 

Anyway - we decided that WE needed to change the holidays.  WE needed to be proactive about not being swept into whatever is going on but to make some choices that make it feel like a season of joy and giving rather than long for what used to be. I think once you lose a certain aspect that you identified with the holidays (like being Santa for your kids) then you have to find something to replace it.

 

This year we went down and made a donation to our local Food Bank.  I also shopped from a wish list on Amazon for our local SPCA shelter.  We will make another donation of some sort the week of Christmas.  

 

You may not think it - but doing these things was wonderful.  It made us both feel good about something!  We've also been "doing" holiday activities that put us in the spirit.  A few relaxing, fun experiences that are new to you make the holidays a bit exciting again.

 

So for you all with the holidays slump - FIND SOMETHING good to do.  Write Cards for overseas military, donate toys to your childrens hospital, make a donation to your food bank.  

 

Hoping you all get your holiday mojo back!


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Posted Dec 6, 2014 - 10:32 am

For the past 15 years I have felt that way. The holidays were/are always up to me to make them special. My spouse and I are getting a divorce, so I'm trying my best to make it as nice as I can this year for our 4 children, and of course, I'm failing miserably. Lol! 



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Posted Dec 8, 2014 - 8:06 am

Slowly getting my mojo back. Baking all those cookies did help. So did a fun time at my work party. Been pumping my favorite Christmas tunes in my car since Thanksgiving afternoon and that's helping too. I've placed a stash of my spare change in the car so, if I'm going into a store with a bell-ringer out front, I'll always have a little something to drop in that kettle.

 

revecca: You may feel like you're failing miserably right now but I'm sure your kids are appreciating (or will appreciate) the effort, even if it doesn't seem that way. Hang in there. My parents divorced when I was in college and my brother was just barely in high school. Mom tried her best to still give us a great Christmas and worried she wasn't making it, but brother and I both look back on those first few simple Christmases with fondness, as they were still filled with love.


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Posted Dec 8, 2014 - 10:06 am

I'm trying to feel it,but we buried my beloved husband of 24 1/2 years yesterday. He'd been battling breast cancer for 3 1/2 years and he finally succumbed on Mon. Nov. 24. Last Christmas was the one to live in our memories.

Ordinarily,we would have put up our tree today but I just couldn't.

My brother is staying with us so he will help us do it tomorrow.

 

It will be different (to say the least) this year at Christmas time.I can't even say how our Christmas will be this year.I will be trying to make it a good one for the kids but my heart sure isn't in it as of right now.

 

I'm so sorry for your loss....


Slowly getting my mojo back. Baking all those cookies did help. So did a fun time at my work party. Been pumping my favorite Christmas tunes in my car since Thanksgiving afternoon and that's helping too. I've placed a stash of my spare change in the car so, if I'm going into a store with a bell-ringer out front, I'll always have a little something to drop in that kettle.

 

revecca: You may feel like you're failing miserably right now but I'm sure your kids are appreciating (or will appreciate) the effort, even if it doesn't seem that way. Hang in there. My parents divorced when I was in college and my brother was just barely in high school. Mom tried her best to still give us a great Christmas and worried she wasn't making it, but brother and I both look back on those first few simple Christmases with fondness, as they were still filled with love.

 

Thank you wittenlover! :)



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Posted Dec 17, 2014 - 5:16 pm

Yes I'm not feeling it. Been another tough year and I'm helping to support my youngest brother in addition to my family plus try to do all the senior stuff with my youngest. My oldest son has more holiday spirit than I do and he's the grinch of the family.
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Posted Dec 19, 2014 - 6:33 am

Perhaps a nice stageit.com concert of holiday music would do the trick, you can pay as little as 10 cents and get to see live concerts from various artists.  Something to take minds off the misery of the holidays and more to the enjoyment of doing something little to reward yourself and help out others.






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