Scanner420 Posted December 15, 2007 Posted December 15, 2007 WTF!!!!!!! I know I'm a guy and thickheaded as hell, but this is just a bit rediculous. My wife went and re-wrote my darn Christmas List for her!!! I had a list tucked away in my wallet of stuff I though she wanted/needed. She's usually hard to shop for and won't leave anykind of hint for me and I usually have to scramble, but no Lie!! She took the list out, read it and scratched off 4 of the 7 gifts I planned to get her and re-wrote the things she actually wanted. I mean....if I did a stunt like that, she'd be peeved!! I planned to get her a: Criquet Machine (for scrapbooking)- Crossed off and replaced with a GC to a Dayspa. A Silver Bracelet- Crossed off and replaced with a Cucumber/Melon Basket from Bath & Bodyworks. AC Moore GC- Crossed off and replaced with Josh Groban Christmas CD. Birthstone Kid Charms- Crossed off and replace with her MaryKay Reps Phone #. She had a basket waiting for me. Victoria Secret GC- Left Alone New Jacket- Left Alone Lounging Outfit- Left Alone I really don't know ether to be pissed or to give her a high five since I know my gifts will be over this year!!
shopping mom Posted December 15, 2007 Posted December 15, 2007 I would like the Criquet machine ( I like to scrapbook ) I think I would be upset, my family knows you do not go in my purse or look at receipts. I usually get them things they ask for but I love to add in a few surprises too.
copados1993 Posted December 15, 2007 Posted December 15, 2007 I know if I did this to my dear hubby, he would NOT be a happy camper LOL!!! Knowing my DH, he'd give me what HE he picked out. I do have to say though that my DH has wonderful taste and he knows me to a T. If it were me, I would maybe get her 1 of the new things she asked for, but I would not do everything. That's just me though.
jarerice Posted December 15, 2007 Posted December 15, 2007 It looks to me like she might be trying to save you money. Or maybe be wanted to make sure you bought her the same types of gifts she bought for you.
Scanner420 Posted December 15, 2007 Author Posted December 15, 2007 M'eh.......I went and got her what she wanted. I'd rather have my wife smiling at me than shooting daggers because I was being spiteful. I would have spent the same amt of money either way, so that was a wash.
mgmckny Posted December 15, 2007 Posted December 15, 2007 Maybe she's not into the scrapbooking as much anymore-- or has so much junk that she never gets around to using (I'm in that boat). Jewelry I can usually take or leave-- I have plenty of it, I did ask for one specific thing this year. The pampering though, it looks like she needs that this year (the goodies from Mary Kay, etc). As you say. Now you know she'll be happy with what she gets!!! And she'll like the color, etc...
ohitsunshine Posted December 15, 2007 Posted December 15, 2007 Sorry to say, but wow what a b*tch. I would never have done something like that. So much for the thought is what counts. Sounds like you were being very thoughtful.
conj Posted December 15, 2007 Posted December 15, 2007 I'm staggered a the fact she went into your wallet and changed something that was yours. I'd be mad, if I were you. Did you have her name on it? Or was it just a list of things? I am a B!tch. I would get her one gift - not on any version of the list, and if she asks, I would say those are your coworkers shopping list, and you were helping him hide things, or that I gave that all to charity. *********** Keep in mind - there is a reason I am not a marriage counselor.
jbdinos Posted December 15, 2007 Posted December 15, 2007 I would be mad if my husband did that to me. But he is too respectful to go through my purse, etc. He won't even get my wallet out for me, he'll just bring me the entire purse. And I too with his wallet won't get anything out unless I really need to borrow a few bucks and he is sleeping or if he asks me to. On the other hand, if I were the wife and found a list of things I don't want I think I'd hint around about what I wanted or ask if he was done shopping or if he needed some ideas still. That way he could change the list himself and no one would ever know. I think it was very generous of you to go get the stuff on the changed list. I am not sure though if I were in your shoes if I could do that and not even mention the snooping, etc. On the other hand, next year hide it better....
dmmiller Posted December 15, 2007 Posted December 15, 2007 LOL sorry but I think its hilarious. :) crossing out the Birthstone Kid Charms- and replace with her MaryKay Reps Phone #. Thats kinda humorous. I can understand the hurt feelings. So in the spirit of christmas, maybe get her one more thing, that she didnt ask for. Just to surprise her. ?
harrispizza4 Posted December 15, 2007 Posted December 15, 2007 Well, I think that was very rude of her! My 10yo dd knows where her christmas list is and she would never look at it. Why would you want to hurt someones feelings by saying I don't like these gifts you were going to get me so get me this instead!!! Plus she now knows everything shes going to get! I think it's wonderful you took the time to think about your wife and the things she might enjoy! If I were you I'd get her 1 gift card for somewhere and tell her to her own dang shopping.
vbamother Posted December 15, 2007 Posted December 15, 2007 M'eh.......I went and got her what she wanted. I'd rather have my wife smiling at me than shooting daggers because I was being spiteful. I would have spent the same amt of money either way, so that was a wash. Good for you. I have the most terrific husband in the world (we've been married 27 years on Dec. 20 and the only thing I'd do different is marry him faster...I almost said "no"!) but he is a very practical man. That's wonderful the rest of the year, but at Christmas I don't really want anything I "need". I want to be indulged. She wants "pretties"....that's why she wanted the spa certificates, cosmetics, etc. Give her presents like that, and this is what you'll get:
Grassy Posted December 15, 2007 Posted December 15, 2007 Wow. I'd never do that to my husband, and he'd never do that to me. We actually don't really usually have "lists". We get each other a couple of things just for fun, and the fun is to be surprised. The one that probably bothered me the most is the one where she crossed off the children's birthstones, and replaced them with the MK Rep's # because she has something "ready" for you. That takes all the fun out of a Christmas present, and it almost seems like she thinks YOU aren't smart enough or creative enough on your own. I think you should skip the WHOLE list. Go buy the birthstones and anything else YOU want to get for her, and tell her you wanted to do it on your own this year to make it special. I think you could even mention later that it hurt/bothered you that she snuck in and changed your lists. I'm sorry she did that. The whole thing is strange to me. Merry Christmas to you and your family though!
Marcster Posted December 15, 2007 Posted December 15, 2007 ...I mean....if I did a stunt like that, she'd be peeved!!Welcome to married life, where it's often "do as I say not as I do".
Lyricsmama Posted December 15, 2007 Posted December 15, 2007 LOL, I kinda think its pretty funny to, really sounds like something that I would do to my DH if he had a list of stuff I didn't want. I'm mean tho, and if he gets me something I don't like I tell him and it goes back.
scrabbler Posted December 15, 2007 Posted December 15, 2007 Wow, umm...I am not sure what to think or say...cuz so much depends on what sort of gifts you gave her in the past. And considering you are ok with it, I guess it is a moot point. I would never do that. If I would have found a list like that, I would have told my dh. If the list contained things that I didn't want him to buy, I would come clean on that also. But dh and I buy things together typically. Dh knows that I am a bit difficult to buy for...and prefers to buy me little things as surprise gifts. Bigger things he prefers to let me help him out.
booga12345 Posted December 15, 2007 Posted December 15, 2007 I would be very upset if my dh did that to a list I had made. Gifts are just that gifts (something that you put thought into) not what the receiver demands. Is that the fun of Christmas, opening gifts and bieng suprised?
ang625 Posted December 15, 2007 Posted December 15, 2007 i personally find what she did rude (jmho). you had what i consider a thoughtfull list....i like being surprised by what the person giving me the gift "thinks" i would like. know what i mean? well, at least she will be getting what she asked for this year.
christib327 Posted December 15, 2007 Posted December 15, 2007 Wow. I would never do that, but if I had my husband would have been TICKED!!! My husband usually asks for a list. He hasn't done that this year, which has me a bit curious...
Guest JustMeDiana Posted December 15, 2007 Posted December 15, 2007 I think I would be upset. Probably pissed off. It is the thought that counts. I think the gifts you chose are nice gifts. If you decide to get here what is on the new list, she would not have any surprises. I am not sure what I would do.... Get her nothing at all, except something from the kids (Birthstone Kid Charms). Buy her gifts that she has to cook or clean with pots and pans vacuum cleaner that kinda of stuff. That is the one my husband knows not to do. Maybe come up with a new list all together..... Or add more items to the list and and have the kids draw X amount of gifts from a hat and only get her those. I sure don't think I would get her the things she wrote down. Save those ideas for birthday or Mothers day. Gee that's a tough one.
erinplus3 Posted December 15, 2007 Posted December 15, 2007 Maybe she had to throw the first list together and it wasn't stuff she really wanted, then she thought about it and changed her mind about some of what she asked for the first time. In this case, I think you should talk to her about it and tell her that it bothered you that she changed the list.
Gray04 Posted December 16, 2007 Posted December 16, 2007 Wow! First of all we do not get into each others wallets. It is "our space", unless we ask or are asked to. I know darn well what I would get if I had done that, nothing!
teebee Posted December 16, 2007 Posted December 16, 2007 Uummm, I'm a little speechless on this one. I honestly don't know what I would do.
mahalia52 Posted December 16, 2007 Posted December 16, 2007 WTF!!!!!!! I know I'm a guy and thickheaded as hell, but this is just a bit rediculous. My wife went and re-wrote my darn Christmas List for her!!! I had a list tucked away in my wallet of stuff I though she wanted/needed. She's usually hard to shop for and won't leave anykind of hint for me and I usually have to scramble, but no Lie!! She took the list out, read it and scratched off 4 of the 7 gifts I planned to get her and re-wrote the things she actually wanted. I mean....if I did a stunt like that, she'd be peeved!! I planned to get her a: Criquet Machine (for scrapbooking)- Crossed off and replaced with a GC to a Dayspa.A Silver Bracelet- Crossed off and replaced with a Cucumber/Melon Basket from Bath & Bodyworks.AC Moore GC- Crossed off and replaced with Josh Groban Christmas CD. Birthstone Kid Charms- Crossed off and replace with her MaryKay Reps Phone #. She had a basket waiting for me. Victoria Secret GC- Left AloneNew Jacket- Left AloneLounging Outfit- Left Alone I really don't know ether to be pissed or to give her a high five since I know my gifts will be over this year!! Give her a high five and be done with it!!!!!:)
hack2222 Posted December 16, 2007 Posted December 16, 2007 You coulda put an 06 on the top of it and thrown it in trash where she'd see it
satidwell Posted December 16, 2007 Posted December 16, 2007 Well let's see I know I wouldn't have crossed out anything but I sure would have added what I REALLY wanted too it or made a new list and sat it beside the wallet but my dh wouldn't have a list He thinks he knows what I want but never seems too get it with the whole surprise thing anyway and I would get upset if he spent money on something I wouldn't use or want.
dealluvr Posted December 16, 2007 Posted December 16, 2007 well first i would never even think of doing that.second i would be thrilled that anyone took an interest in me to even consider thinking what i might like without having me to say anything. for the last i dont know how many years i have had to buy and wrap all of my gifts so i think you are 1 in a million.
jbrawn26 Posted December 16, 2007 Posted December 16, 2007 well first i would never even think of doing that.second i would be thrilled that anyone took an interest in me to even consider thinking what i might like without having me to say anything. for the last i dont know how many years i have had to buy and wrap all of my gifts so i think you are 1 in a million.i agree! you should make list for her wallet and see how she likes it!
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