theboyzmom Posted December 3, 2006 Share Posted December 3, 2006 Update....my oldest snooped this morning!!!! He did fess up and he feels really badly. Our usual rule is that anything that got peeked into gets returned, however, he found his top 3 items, and the ones I worked the hardest to get! I'm toying with what to do and came back to this thread to read some of your ideas. As I'm writing this, he's in his room writing an apology to his father and I and what he thinks we should do. I made him write down exactly what items he saw and then I told him exactly what I went through to get each item. He was in tears. I'm thinking that I will hold those items back and then give them to him later in the day, or the next day, unwrapped. I would hold them for his birthday, but that isn't until October, so almost a whole year from now those items may not even interest him anymore (and with 3 boys, we buy each of their gifts with the idea that they can be shared with all 3 of them) I think what got him the most was when I said, "I really thought I could trust you". I'm not going to 'punish' him beyond the letter and the 'parental disappointment'...but I think I do like the idea of giving them unwrapped later on.... still thinking... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cleverbffool Posted December 3, 2006 Share Posted December 3, 2006 Update....my oldest snooped this morning!!!! He did fess up and he feels really badly. Our usual rule is that anything that got peeked into gets returned, however, he found his top 3 items, and the ones I worked the hardest to get! I'm toying with what to do and came back to this thread to read some of your ideas. As I'm writing this, he's in his room writing an apology to his father and I and what he thinks we should do. I made him write down exactly what items he saw and then I told him exactly what I went through to get each item. He was in tears. I'm thinking that I will hold those items back and then give them to him later in the day, or the next day, unwrapped. I would hold them for his birthday, but that isn't until October, so almost a whole year from now those items may not even interest him anymore (and with 3 boys, we buy each of their gifts with the idea that they can be shared with all 3 of them) I think what got him the most was when I said, "I really thought I could trust you". I'm not going to 'punish' him beyond the letter and the 'parental disappointment'...but I think I do like the idea of giving them unwrapped later on.... still thinking...How old is he? I like the idea of opening it later in the day. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
theboyzmom Posted December 3, 2006 Share Posted December 3, 2006 he turned 11 in October his dad and I decided to put those gifts away and give them to him later on...not sure if it will be later that day, week or maybe after the new year Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Illinoismom Posted December 3, 2006 Share Posted December 3, 2006 See Christmas is not for punishing, every one loves to look just some do not. He really hasnt done anything but ruin his suprises that you worked hard to get. It will be a ho hum Christmas for him as you wont have any suprise to give him, You will not be able to have the joy of seeing that amazement in his eyes. So he already lost. My son did this one year and it hurt him because he couldnt be suprised and Christmas morning was no fun, That to him was punishment enough and he never ever thought to snoop again, Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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