Ok I felt compelled to add my 2cents even though it isnt much comming from people you dont know.
Let me rest assure you, I grew up with a mother who got into a nasty car wreck being in the back of a car rear ended by a semi. She was bed ridden and told she would never walk again and was told after numerous (10-15) surgeries to be exact that she would die within 5years. My Christmases and holidays were mostly from salvation army, churches, friends etc. We learned growing up that this holiday season is NOT about gift giving and NOT about how much you get or what you want but the real meaning. If you taught your children well (which being a mother myself now i'm sure you did) you child/children will understand that rough times happen and to just be thankful for the family and friends they do have. This is what gets people through the times and knowing you at least are surround by the people who love you and enjoying their company that is all that should matter. I agree with the above statment about small hand-home made gifts sometimes a gift from the heart with creativity is more than people can imagine to warm the heart! Other friends and family will understand and if they dont they will eventually. Stay strong!
It is going to hurt not to be able to give your child/children everything and anything you can like we all want to, but we all must remember sometimes things happen outside our control and there is nothing we can do but wade the waters. Just have faith and remember it can't rain all the time.