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#1 HansieDZ  OFFLINE  

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Posted Oct 26, 2017 - 3:56 pm

I am happy to welcome my new son-in-law to the family and am wondering about how many presents to give to him and my daughter. i already know for sure that I will continue the tradition of the Christmas stocking for my daughter and will love giving one to my son-in-law (I go so over board on stockings that I can't fit everything in it!) but am wondering about other presents. This is my first married child and don't really know what to do! Do I continue to have a whole of lot presents for her and also an equal amount for her husband? A few personal presents for each and maybe a couple/house gift? It just dawned on me that my daughter won't be at my house on Christmas morning and it's going to be different,but I'm excited that they are off to a brand new adventure of making Christmas traditions of their own!

 

What does everyone else do? I'm looking forward to hearing how everyone else has experienced this!


Edited by HansieDZ, Oct 26, 2017 - 3:57 pm.

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#2 HanShotFirst  OFFLINE  

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Posted Oct 26, 2017 - 4:08 pm

When my sister was married he got the same amount of gifts (either # wise and $ wise) as possible as my sister and myself from everyone in the family.  

 

As far as what gifts, maybe you could feel your daughter out about any couple/household gifts they might want or need and go from there.  I don't think you will go wrong with personal gifts for each or a combo.  And by all means, continue to go overboard with stockings!  That's the best part of it all for me.  :)



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Posted Oct 26, 2017 - 4:40 pm

I got a new SIL last year. I just treated him like one of my kids and got him the same amount as the others.

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Posted Oct 26, 2017 - 5:45 pm

Before my kids got married I spent about $150 each (unless there was a big need) now I spend $75 on each. So to be clearer I spend $75 on my DD and I spend $75 on her DH ( best SIL ever!!). If I buy a board game or something for them together I split the cost and take it out of both envelopes.



#5 jesusluvu  OFFLINE  

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Posted Oct 27, 2017 - 7:28 am

I would still do what you do for your daughter but don't leave him out. It may not be on the same level but if it is a thoughtful gift or something you know he would love it makes all the difference. He understands that this is your daughter, so go for it. even if you get them seperate gifts and a few couples/house gifts they will love it . but I do like Elmck comments too.



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Posted Oct 27, 2017 - 7:31 am

When my son got married, I just added my new dil to the list. She gets the same # of gifts my sons get. I never had a daughter, so I've found shopping for her is a lot of fun, lol.  If I get them gifts as a couple, it's included in their number, so my younger son might actually end up with more individual gifts, but they're all even. 

 

Everyone's family dynamic is different though. I don't think there's any one right way to do it. Follow your heart.  



#7 HansieDZ  OFFLINE  

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Posted Oct 27, 2017 - 4:21 pm

Thanks for your input everyone!


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#8 stevierocks  OFFLINE  

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Posted Oct 27, 2017 - 9:06 pm

i think everyone is different.. and what ever you choose will be fine. but i get same for DS and a few things for FutureDIL so she has some stuff to open while everyone else opens theirs .. and any gifts for the 2 of them i tend to put her name on so she can feel more involved and welcome... (they still come over christmas morning to open gifts that "santa" leaves at the house



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Posted Oct 29, 2017 - 6:21 pm

I would make it equal. Get a few gifts that are just for them alone and then get them a few joint gifts or one big joint gift for their home. I keep a list of things I see that I would like for my house. Whenever my mom asks what I want I tell her one if those items. I love getting new things for my house

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