

Teenager snooping/opening gifts early!
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Posted Dec 13, 2007 - 4:08 am

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Posted Dec 13, 2007 - 5:21 am
replace it all with HBA stuff - 8 packs of soap, deoderant, tampons... wrap them in boxes as close as possible to the ones under the tree now. Say nothing. video tape her opening her gifts. please....
Oh I would love to see that video.

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Posted Dec 13, 2007 - 6:44 am
Thanks. I know its probably not that big of a deal for Christmas presents, its just the whole sneaking thing that drives me nuts. We've had problems with her sneaking before and I just have no patience for that crap.
We took her computer away last week due to bad grades and I found out she was sneaking to use that when Im not home so I had to start taking it to work with me, she was sneaking in my room and bathroom and taking stuff, breaking things when nobody is home, sneaking food into her room and then lying about it when confronted. Its just things like that which add up and then when I find out that she is also ruining christmas and opening things that dont even belong to her yet since I havent gifted them, its like the straw that broke the camels back and I just get sooo frustrated.
I am sorry you are going through this. Our DD13 has many of the same issues and currently is in an inpatient treatment facility to try to find out why as it progressed from our home to school, etc. It's so hard and I feel so bad that you have this stress. Just keep communicating with her about how disappointed you are in her and if you can think of other things she likes you can always take them back and get her something else. Or is her birthday close enough you can save them for her birthday and get something else for Christmas? To kind of teach her a lesson? I think I would at least unwrap them, and put the receipts with them and have her help me load them into the car and then pretend to go shopping for a while and leave them at a friend or relatives house to be rewrapped in different sized boxes to bring back on Christmas Eve. Make her worry about it and maybe she will think twice next time.
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Posted Dec 13, 2007 - 7:25 am
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Posted Dec 13, 2007 - 10:56 am
Thanks. I know its probably not that big of a deal for Christmas presents, its just the whole sneaking thing that drives me nuts. We've had problems with her sneaking before and I just have no patience for that crap.
We took her computer away last week due to bad grades and I found out she was sneaking to use that when Im not home so I had to start taking it to work with me, she was sneaking in my room and bathroom and taking stuff, breaking things when nobody is home, sneaking food into her room and then lying about it when confronted. Its just things like that which add up and then when I find out that she is also ruining christmas and opening things that dont even belong to her yet since I havent gifted them, its like the straw that broke the camels back and I just get sooo frustrated.
I think maybe your daughter and my stepdaughter were separated at birth. LOL. We are going through the exact same things almost. She doesn`t sneak on the computer at home when no one is home. But she does sneak onto myspace when she is at friends homes when she knows she is only to get on that when she is home and even then she was grounded from the computer period so it was a double whammy. Just so happened I was on myspace at home when she signed on at her friends house. LOL. We have went through her going through my stuff and taking what she wants as well without asking. She has straightened out and is a honor roll student at school. So I feel for ya.
As to the sneaking with the present I did it as well when I was a kid. The last time I did it my stepmom switched my gifts with my younger sister and she got everything I wanted for Christmas and I got some of her gifts that I think we just extras that my sister didn`t care about if she got or not. I was not very happy. LOL. My sister was though. I didn`t peek again.

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Posted Dec 13, 2007 - 4:57 pm
My ds12 fessed up that they snooped 2 years ago and boy was I upset. I think the best part about Christmas is watching the surprise on their faces as they open their gifts. I let them know how upset I was and they said they never did it again. I told them they will ruin my Christmas if they do stuff like that and I think they took it to heart.
thats what i told my kids. i said my christmas is watching them open their gifts, so if they snoop then i loose that look of surprise and they would be taking my gift away from me. so if you want to ruin my christmas then go and look.my son 14 said darn this guilt feeling it's not fair then he faked a cry while laughing.
i don't hide most of my gifts in my house any way. so i don't worry to much about it.
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Posted Dec 15, 2007 - 12:19 am
replace it all with HBA stuff - 8 packs of soap, deoderant, tampons... wrap them in boxes as close as possible to the ones under the tree now. Say nothing. video tape her opening her gifts. please....
Post it on You Tube Please!!!!!
LOL!!!
I did it, but never told my mother. My sis did it and got caught. It happens with kids. Unfortunately it'll happen with my four sooner, rather than later. (My oldest is 7 and has been breaking through locks since he was 2!) I don't know what'll happen when I do catch them, but I know my wife will freak out.
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Posted Dec 15, 2007 - 6:37 am

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Posted Dec 15, 2007 - 7:37 am
I vote for replacing them with HBA items hahaha...
My kids, 6 and 4, have seen everything I've bought so far. However, they think it's all for their cousins overseas. I did this last year too and they don't question me. If this can last for another year or two I would love it!
Do they believe in Santa? Your six y.o. may be a little to old for this!
I was a peeker and I still am! If I notice my mother has stuff in bags in her room I will still to this day go in and sneak a look! The blankets she puts over the stuff before they are wrapped just don't deter me! My husband wont even bring the stuff he buys me into the house untill christmas eve because he knows I can't help my self.
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Posted Dec 15, 2007 - 8:51 am
I am so mad right now. I just found out that my teenage daughter (14) has opened the few gifts that I have under the tree for her. I can tell that the tape has been removed because it pulls the color off of the wrapping paper and re-taped. Another reason I know is because...I admit...I used to do the same thing as a kid
However, I at least know how my mother felt now. She used to just tell me if I wanted to ruin my own Christmas, she didnt care, but this just really pisses me off. While my dd is generally a good kid, I have had some problems with her lately not listening and sneaking, etc. but overall she does what I tell or ask her to do.
So, is this just a teenage thing, or do I really have the right to be so mad? Do others face the same thing? What do you do? This is going to be a light Christmas as we just started a new business, so I cant take away the few gifts that she is getting because she snooped. Anyone have any other creative ways to handle this? Thanks.
I did this when I was 12 and have never done it again since. Not because my mom found out, like you did (or if she did she never mentioned it), but because I found out on Christmas day that I'd robbed myself of one of the best parts of the holiday. That surprise you get opening presents can't be beat, and I sat there feeling kind of empty. 'Course I couldn't tell anyone what I'd done...but I sure learned my lesson!

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