When we get together with the big family, we do finger foods. Everybody brings whatever they want. Someone can be responsible for paper plates, napkins, and cups, someone needs to be designated to bring drinks or everyone can bring their own.
For our more immediate family (there are 24 of us), we get together at my mom's and have chicken & dumplins. I make the dumplins and rolls at home and take them, my oldest sister fries chicken and takes it, my other sister lives with my mom and she makes fried potatoes and spaghetti in tomato sauce (that's a side in our family).
Personally, I would not get a bigger tree to decorate for the family. I'm sure your 4' tree is beautiful and just right for your home. I don't know how big your house is, but it might seem pretty cramped when you bring in 35 extra people. A larger tree is going to make it feel even more so.
My best advice: don't stress! And don't think you have to do it all alone. It's supposed to be fun so make it as easy as you can so you can enjoy it.
Edited by Bopeep, Oct 19, 2022 - 10:50 am.