I'm from a big family and the spending was getting to be WAY too much. One of my brothers asked if we would be offended if they just bought for our sons. That was fine by me, so this year we are going to do kids only gifts. We would rather just spend time together eating and being merry so it works out great. The other thing we do is if you aren't going to be at Christmas, we don't mail gifts. I know that might sound rough, but postage is outrageous. It also doesn't make my siblings that can't come feel pressured to send my boys something. We tossed around the gift card idea one year, but didn't do it.